Friday, September 7, 2007

Pride and Prejudice

So, a conversation that's come up between some in the community is something that they all are willing to bring into the wed. night get-together as a topic. It kind-of goes back to the picture in our first possible topic post.

Mary has spoken about it on her blog post, "Finding My Own Way Out: Seperate Lives" and we think that her post/voice is a good place to start on this conversation!


This topic of dialouge has been discussed between individuals before this post, and after some of those conversations a statement was made by Alison that, "we really need to talk about each person's relationship/feelings towards the institutional Church. We (the Divine Conversations community) can't become who we are trying to be (a community that provides what many of us feel are lacking in the Church), until we all deal with this issue.


the conversation has already begun. Talk about it with each other! Talk about it with others. Read Mary's thoughts and the comments to her blog, and then continue the conversation within our community (on here, and comming up this wed. night...sept. 12th @7:30pm). Please either place your commments on this Blog, or duplicate them here if you post on Mary's Blog to keep confusion to a minimum!

Also feel free to go back to the post of the picture of the church, that may be our point of starting the topic on wed.


look forward to the conversation!

p.s. yes, the picture is of an inflatable church! if we get to big for the coffee house, they have an inflatable pub too:)
PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTINUE WITH PREVIOUS CONVERSATIONS! DON'T LET A NEW TOPIC OR RECAP KEEP YOU FROM CONVERSING ON PREVIOUS TOPICS AS WELL!

2 comments:

Divine Conversations Admin. said...

I've Imported the comments from Mary's blog to keep simplicity!

admin.

Divine Conversations Admin. said...

Alison said...

Mary, this might be a good topic to bring up...what is it about "church" that is essential (or we feel is essential) to our faith or relationship with God? Do we really need "church" or just certain aspects of it? Do we think church should be the one place we feel MORE contected to God b/c we've been taught that our whole lives and we feel guilty if we doubt it? Why do a majority of people go to church and what do they get out of it?

I haven't questioned the effectiveness of church as much as I have the effectiveness of sermons and the patterns of worship services we get into. It's sad, but I've somewhat given up on the idea of truly worshiping on a Sun. morning (not b/c of any church or any bad experience, but b/c of other things like lack of spontaneity and boredom, stress outside of the church, too much going on at church (esp. when Justin is a minister), etc.

ANyway, I'm really tired and this is probably not making a lot of sense...plus I think I would like to discuss this with others and see where it goes! :) What do you think?
9:56 PM

Justin said...

This all goes back to the picture on the Divine Conversations blog. I haven't said much about the picture of the dead-end church sign, but depending on my mood that day, I can feel a wide range of emotions when i see it, a lot of it has to do with the same things that you state in this post.

Sometimes i wonder if I attend/participate in the institution out of a feeling of responsibility! Interestingly enough, that's what institutions do best, make you feel responsible (also read guilty) through tried and true tacticts of indotrination (not theologically but pratically: if we are out of church more than one sunday, do we not get asked what's wrong with us?)and fear. I think deeply ingrained in both of us is a fear, loathing, and love for the institutional church. However, i argue with myself every day trying to convince me to either go back to the institution, or stay as far away as possible! It really is a sad and hard place that the Church we love has put us in!
10:27 PM


Mary said...

i think church is more of a social gathering place...which is neither inherently good nor bad. we need (because we are humans) to be in community, preferably with people like us. church is a good place for that. so is java divine on wednesday nights.

perhaps we do think church is where we should feel MORE of God's presence...it is after all "God's house," which is a very hebrew idea in that God doesn't leave the homeland...which we say we don't believe, right? we claim that God is with us always, everywhere we are. yet that's another one of those beliefs we say we hold, but we don't act like it.

i don't doubt that there are people who go to church on sunday morning and truly encounter God, truly worship God, get their community needs met and engage in Bible study. but i have to wonder whether that is the majority of people who are in the pews. and it may be, for we all know that our coffee shop community is very much in the minority in your typical church.
2:49 PM

Justin said...

I think that you are right, the coffee house community that we are experiencing (as far as the true community/worship part goes) is a rare thing in the mainstream protestant subculture. IDK what has made me think about this, maybe it was my talk with ali, combined with my talk with you, and then this blog post, but I DO remember times when I have felt what i am feeling on wed. nights in a baptist church!

As a youth, there were times at which I felt that I was in the act of worship. There were times in the youth group that I felt I was being fed spiritually. There were a lot of special events (retreats, revivals, renewals, and other things that should begin with R just to keep the theme) where an encounter with God happened (even if it WAS due more to emotional provoking/fear tactics). However, those were still only once a year, and never in what I would consider a safe community for exploration!

Then again, as a youth minister, I can remember times when I knew God was present, but very rarely was it found within the pews. Usually it was found within my youth sub-community. I remember one lesson where they were using their artistic gifts with clay (talking about God molding our individual journeys like a sculpture; delicate, thoughtful, beautiful), they were much better with clay than I am! They each made different things: one made a Dog getting hit by a spray from a fire hydrant, and one made a man on a tiny island sitting under one palm tree (we didn't even know that youth had that kind of artistic talent!), as well as many others. I remember this was an opening exercise to introduce an experience to keep bringing back in as we explored the lesson/topic above. but before we even got into the lesson, I watched their hands expertly, delicately, and beautifully work on their sculptures and at that moment I felt God's hand on me. They taught me the lesson that I was supposed to teach them! This happened in a church building, but this kind of thing is the exception more than it is the rule. Our youth community was more like our coffee house community than it was like any youth group I had seen or been a part of!

Maybe that's why I have both a love and dislike towards the church. It's a marriage that has more bad moments than not; more fights, more silence, more distance, but just when you're about to give up God is allowed back in! Through a lesson, a speaker, a thought, a relationship, a question, a discussion, or a comment. You remember those times and your love for that marriage, and you realize that you're just not quite ready to give up working on it yet!

So I don't know if I'm hanging on to a marriage that's dead (i repeat I am talking about the marriage between myself and the church not my personal marriage for those that skim...that is just fine thank-you!) and I just don't know when to let go, or if, when so many ARE giving up on the insitution that I am being told to hang in there, and help it over this hump, to help it remember the mutual love that we both had/have that made the Church such a sacred place! and so the war rages on!

also you might find of interest: my emergent contact's blog. He has some interesting things to say in his latest post that tie into this topic: http://communionofthearts.blogspot.com/
his name is Jeff Kursonis, he's a cool guy!